Watts the Safeword: What's Edging?! And How Can It Help?

We teamed up with sex advice vloggers Watts the Safeword for a highly informative chat about edging! Apparently edging is important for a whole lot more than just making things last longer. Take a look.

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Watts the Safeword: Why Do People Use Buttplugs!

We teamed up with sex advice vloggers Watts the Safeword for a highly informative chat about butt plugs! They explain what they are for, how to get them in, and equally important, how to get them out safely. Enjoy!

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RJ Aguiar's Just the Tips #12: Who Needs Monogamy?

Handsome and charming YouTuber RJ Aguiar teams up with AdamMale and gay adult superstars Seth and Billy Santoro to have a serious discussion about the pros and cons of monogamy. Seth and Billy are incredibly honest and straightforward discussing the progression of their relationship from monogamous to open over a period of years as their trust in each other became fully developed. It's terrifically insightful. And, they are totally supportive of all types of relationships and recognize that different people have different needs.

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Neil McNeil: "Ready For Sex Toys?" Video!

So, we recently sent internet celebrity Neil McNeil a giant basket of sex toys from AdamMale.com. Neil turned it into a charming video about incorporating sex toys into one's love life with a partner/lover/boyfriend.

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4 Benefits to Staying Single

After getting married too young, well before it was legal in any state, and staying married five years too long, I have come to appreciate my single life. There is some real and legitimate comfort in being married, and one day I might like to make that commitment again. However, the numerous benefits of being single are too wonderful to ignore. Here are my top four.

4) Your Time Is Your Own

You don’t have anyone you have to take into consideration when making plans or report your whereabouts to.  If you want to up and go on a fun trip for a few days, you have that freedom. You can hike, shop, go out with friends, workout,  do anything you want without having to worry about leaving someone behind or worried that you will have to miss out or cancel because your significant other can’t get time off work or is on call.

3) Your Space Is Your Own

Living single you can do whatever you please in your own home. You don't have to explain to your friends that the framed, signed Katy Perry poster is not yours. There are no special throw pillows. You can go to the bathroom with the door open. You don't have to hide your porn. Stock the refrigerator full of beer and junk food. Watch what you want on T.V. It’s very liberating.

2) Rich and Varied Sex Life

I am by no means overly promiscuous, but I am not a monk either. Having a healthy dating life has lead to some interesting and unique sexual experiences. While married, the sex tapered off. Worse, when we were unhappy with each other, we were both ice cold and indifferent to each other in the bedroom. Being single makes sure this never happens. Each person I date brings something new and different into the bedroom. Different backgrounds, experience levels, likes and dislikes really keep a guy on his toes. I have seen more diversity and intrigue in four years of single life than I ever did while married.

1) It Allows You To Learn Who You Are

So, the best part of being single has been learning a good deal about myself, both good and bad. Through dating and interacting with different people, I have a much better understanding of what I want in a relationship and out of life. As a single person, if something was not working out for me, I had the freedom to express myself and move on in search of something that did work for me. I did not have this skill set when I was married.  I am much better prepared to recognize the traits and qualities that I like and need to look for in a potential future spouse.  Being single has given me invaluable life experience that will ultimately make me a better spouse in return.

PS: Don’t get a titanium wedding band.  You can’t unload them anywhere if the relationship ends.

4 Fun Ways to Delay Orgasm!

Maybe a bit too often after sex, my partner has commented that when finally getting to intercourse, I don’t last quite as long as either of us would like. Of course, my standard explanation is that he is so incredibly hot and amazing in bed that sometimes I just can’t help myself. But, the sad truth is, I just am not lasting as long as I probably should. So, I started doing research on simple techniques and quick changes in my behavior that might make me last longer. To my surprise, implementing them was more fun than I could have ever hoped.

1) Practice by masturbating. 

Bring yourself to the brink of orgasm then firmly squeeze the tip of your penis. This is completely painless and it temporarily reverses the blood flow, relieving the desire to ejaculate. This technique is attributed to Masters & Johnson. It is suggested that you bring yourself close three times and allow yourself to finally release on the fourth. After a few weeks, I was able to last an additional twenty to thirty minutes in bed. Also, this works in a pinch if you are with your partner and feel like you are going to blow too early.

2) Put the condom back on. 

Sure being in a committed relationship is great, especially if there is no risk of STIs. But, such wonderful skin to skin contact feels so darn great, that it is a huge contributing factor to finishing too quickly. So, if you want to reduce the sensitivity, wrap it back up.

3) Pace yourself. 

Sure once you get going, sometimes you just want to let it out full throttle. But, the faster you rev your engines, the faster you get to your destination. Slow to medium strokes will allow you to make it last and probably make your partner feel a whole lot more sensation too.

4) Avoid too much foreplay. 

Read carefully. This does not mean cut the foreplay out. It just means that if you have a sensual and seductive hour of foreplay, chances are you are going to be so excited that once intercourse begins, you are already more than half way there. Cutting this time in half might just considerably increase your ability to last.

Foreplay Rule #1: Foot Massage Leads to Sizzling Sex!

There are over 36,000 nerve endings in the human foot. And, according to the American Massage Therapy Association, you can use the feet to reach pretty much any part of the body. For example, the heel helps with stimulation of the back, while the arches help with the legs. According to tantric sex experts Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson, the soles of feet on men are a huge erogenous zone. Stimulating this area can lead to intense sexual feelings and will make any night of passion sizzle even more.

The part of the brain that activated by the nerve endings in the soles of men’s feet is directly next to the part of the brain activated by the nerve endings in the penile region of the body. The two are very closely associated with each other.

So next time you are just hanging out on the couch together, grab your partner’s feet and give them a massage. Spend lots of time on each individual area: toes, soles, arches, heels. I promise you will have a mind-blowing evening.

The Pitfalls of Spicy Food and Oral Sex! (It's Not Just Bad Breath)

So, it’s date night. You want to impress. Taking a lover to a nice restaurant is always a nice treat. But, maybe, if you think you have a chance of getting lucky, and are inclined towards oral pleasure, you might want to skip the Mexican and Indian restaurants in favor of more bland fare.

It is true that spicy food increases sexual desire. In a 2011 article in The State Hornet, reporter Brittany Bradley and Dr. Diana Hoppe, author of “Healthy Sex Drive, Healthy You,” explain that spicy foods contain capsaicin. Bradley writes, “Eating foods that contain capsaicin release adrenalin, which in turn releases endorphins. These chemicals contribute to a feel-good sensation that can create a, eh em, happy feeling. It's also great for your metabolism, making you feel sexy about what you’re eating, increasing confidence and yep, making you want to do the deed.”

However, scientists and doctors alike warn that capsaicin can be stored in ones’ mouth for quite some time. When your mouth comes in contact with a lover’s genitals, the capsaicin can easily be transferred and the tingling, burning sensation your guy feels will most likely not be pleasure. Your habanero peach chutney might just cause your boyfriend to spend some time cooling off their nether region.

Simple solution…I will just go brush my teeth and use mouthwash!

Not so fast there bucko…
The current rule of thumb is to wait at least two hours before or after oral sex to brush your teeth and use mouthwash. In a Chicago Now article titled “Oral Sex and the Risk of HIV and STIs,” writer Just Joey gives us some sobering food for thought. "DO NOT brush your teeth, floss or use mouthwash two hours before or after oral sex. The reason for this is that you are creating cuts, abrasions and inflammation of your gums. These open portals create a welcome mat for bacteria such as Gonorrhea to enter your system. Even mouthwash, with its burning action, can create inflammation of the gums which allows bacteria to enter easier.”

So, it seems spicy food might be a double edged sword. On the one hand, it increases libido. On the other hand, it creates a few precarious concerns. Maybe I will get the roasted chicken and baked potato instead.

-Top photo by MoutonRebelle used under Creative Commons License.

Bringing Up Condoms - 5 Helpful Ideas (From Hot Shirtless Hunks)!

We all know condoms are important. Yet, a lot of us chose to ignore this and engage in risky sexual activity outside of a monogamous relationship.  Who knows why? Maybe we had too much to drink. Maybe we mistakenly chose to trust the person we are with at the time. Maybe we are all a little self-destructive. Maybe it just feels better.

We all know the stats about HIV and STIs being more prevalent in the gay community. We all know that HIV infection is on the rise again in those under 30 and that gay men make up 72% of all syphilis cases. As gay men, we hear about these things almost non-stop.  So, let’s skip the statistics and get right down to pictures of hot guys.

Here are our ideas on how to bring up condoms.

1) The Direct Approach

2) Make It Fun

3) Say It Turns You On To Lend A Hand

4) Bring It Up Casually

5) Lay Down the Law

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