4 Benefits to Staying Single

After getting married too young, well before it was legal in any state, and staying married five years too long, I have come to appreciate my single life. There is some real and legitimate comfort in being married, and one day I might like to make that commitment again. However, the numerous benefits of being single are too wonderful to ignore. Here are my top four.

4) Your Time Is Your Own

You don’t have anyone you have to take into consideration when making plans or report your whereabouts to.  If you want to up and go on a fun trip for a few days, you have that freedom. You can hike, shop, go out with friends, workout,  do anything you want without having to worry about leaving someone behind or worried that you will have to miss out or cancel because your significant other can’t get time off work or is on call.

3) Your Space Is Your Own

Living single you can do whatever you please in your own home. You don't have to explain to your friends that the framed, signed Katy Perry poster is not yours. There are no special throw pillows. You can go to the bathroom with the door open. You don't have to hide your porn. Stock the refrigerator full of beer and junk food. Watch what you want on T.V. It’s very liberating.

2) Rich and Varied Sex Life

I am by no means overly promiscuous, but I am not a monk either. Having a healthy dating life has lead to some interesting and unique sexual experiences. While married, the sex tapered off. Worse, when we were unhappy with each other, we were both ice cold and indifferent to each other in the bedroom. Being single makes sure this never happens. Each person I date brings something new and different into the bedroom. Different backgrounds, experience levels, likes and dislikes really keep a guy on his toes. I have seen more diversity and intrigue in four years of single life than I ever did while married.

1) It Allows You To Learn Who You Are

So, the best part of being single has been learning a good deal about myself, both good and bad. Through dating and interacting with different people, I have a much better understanding of what I want in a relationship and out of life. As a single person, if something was not working out for me, I had the freedom to express myself and move on in search of something that did work for me. I did not have this skill set when I was married.  I am much better prepared to recognize the traits and qualities that I like and need to look for in a potential future spouse.  Being single has given me invaluable life experience that will ultimately make me a better spouse in return.

PS: Don’t get a titanium wedding band.  You can’t unload them anywhere if the relationship ends.

How To Make Valentine's Day A Success!

So, we all want to make our special someone feel loved on Valentine’s Day. What's  more, we would all probably like to get a little action on Valentine’s Night! So, here’s a few tips to make sure you accomplish both goals!

1) Make Reservations in Advance!

If you hope to go out to a romantic dinner, plan ahead! Be an adult and make reservations well in advance (like right now). Nothing is less romantic than driving from restaurant to restaurant trying to find a place to wine and dine your lover. Chances are you are going to end up at a family restaurant with pictures on the menu.

2) Buy Flowers/Gift!

Making the gesture of actually getting flowers and/or a gift for your companion will make them exceptionally happy. Even the staunchest of hearts melt when a gift arrives on Valentine’s Day. You don’t have to break the bank on this. But a token gift goes a long, long way.

3) Show Up On Time!

Never, never, never keep your date waiting on Valentine’s Day.  Even if you have lived together for 25 years, make sure you arrive when you say you will. Being late sets a negative tone for the evening that is seriously difficult to recover from.

4) Put The Phone Away!

Make sure your date has your undivided attention on Valentine’s Day. So turn the phones off so you are not even tempted to look at texts, emails, Facebook, Twitter, or anything else. And please, please, please do not Instagram photos of your dinner.

5) Sincerely Complement!

Complements that come from the heart will make your loved one feel great. Please make sure they are sincere and that it is obvious you mean them.

6) Do Not Go To Or Do Any of the Following:

Fast Food, Gay Bars, Comic Book Store, Log Into World of Warcraft, Pay With a Coupon, Suggest a Horror Movie, Get Trashed, Talk About Grindr, Growlr, or Scruff, or anything else completely inappropriate for a romantic evening!

4 Fun Ways to Delay Orgasm!

Maybe a bit too often after sex, my partner has commented that when finally getting to intercourse, I don’t last quite as long as either of us would like. Of course, my standard explanation is that he is so incredibly hot and amazing in bed that sometimes I just can’t help myself. But, the sad truth is, I just am not lasting as long as I probably should. So, I started doing research on simple techniques and quick changes in my behavior that might make me last longer. To my surprise, implementing them was more fun than I could have ever hoped.

1) Practice by masturbating. 

Bring yourself to the brink of orgasm then firmly squeeze the tip of your penis. This is completely painless and it temporarily reverses the blood flow, relieving the desire to ejaculate. This technique is attributed to Masters & Johnson. It is suggested that you bring yourself close three times and allow yourself to finally release on the fourth. After a few weeks, I was able to last an additional twenty to thirty minutes in bed. Also, this works in a pinch if you are with your partner and feel like you are going to blow too early.

2) Put the condom back on. 

Sure being in a committed relationship is great, especially if there is no risk of STIs. But, such wonderful skin to skin contact feels so darn great, that it is a huge contributing factor to finishing too quickly. So, if you want to reduce the sensitivity, wrap it back up.

3) Pace yourself. 

Sure once you get going, sometimes you just want to let it out full throttle. But, the faster you rev your engines, the faster you get to your destination. Slow to medium strokes will allow you to make it last and probably make your partner feel a whole lot more sensation too.

4) Avoid too much foreplay. 

Read carefully. This does not mean cut the foreplay out. It just means that if you have a sensual and seductive hour of foreplay, chances are you are going to be so excited that once intercourse begins, you are already more than half way there. Cutting this time in half might just considerably increase your ability to last.